...where am I?

I'm realizing that watching my friends get their hearts broken, go through relationships, and finding love made no difference whatsoever in me learning from it. I thought I'd be more equipped with knowledge taken from their experiences. That I can figure things out when I'm there. But I'm absolutely wrong! I guess its just like going to college, learning theory, and when kicked into the real world you are absolutely not ready for it. I'm not even in a relationship and yet I'm already confused. Is it really like this? Does it always have to start in limbo --undefined, shapeless, confusing? Argh!