the most dreaded day of the year for us singles

Another year, another valentines day, another time to be reminded that I have no valentine. When will be the day when I will not write an entry of forced thrill of being single? Don't get me wrong. I actually love being single. I don't have enough time in a day right now, just imagine bringing in a significant other. But wouldn't it be nice if I had one? Ah, I can only imagine it right now though there is no reason to dwell on what I do not have...and so I focus on me.

How can I become a better me? As I see it, I can only be a better girlfriend if I am a better single me. Don't you agree? I have read and heard so many stories about people wanting a significant other to try and complete themselves or perhaps fill in a void. The thing is, there is no amount of anyTHING out there that can do that for you. I have realized that I have to be happy with my own skin and with my own self ---imperfections, shortcomings, and every nasty thing I embody including of course the great things in me as well --loving, caring, trusting (pick your adjective). I'd rather be able to love me than not have someone try to love me, when I ought to do it myself. I think it's an unfair expectation for someone to have them fill the void you have. They won't be able to fill it, regardless of how big that crater, or how small the puddle. Either accept the gap or fill it yourself. I think that's why there's such a high degree of divorce. Some people think that getting married would make them happier. When in fact, it's a temporary feeling and its quite fleeting.

Oh well . . . and so I decided to work on me. To fill my own holes and find my own happiness. I've succeeded in some parts of my life and I'm now working on those that require more attention...such as work/career. What is it that I ought to be doing? Like I said, I'm figuring things out and I'm happy to say that I've at least learned to ask for help. Thanks Jennie (just in case you read this. . . )

Well, happy valentines day to everyone. One note I can impart...regardless of your marital status -> give yourself a hug and be your own valentine. After that, turn around and give your loved ones a hug too. Then it will be a GREAT day instead of pouting that your boyfriend didn't give you the tennis bracelet you wanted. How superficial! and cause the evident break-up. Eh...their loss. see ya all!!!